Say what you need to say….

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Hi peeps, how are you doing? I’m so so sorry for letting my blog untouched for the last 1 month. Here are some updates about me recently just to set the stage for the story that I’m going to tell you in the next 10 minutes.

I finished my internship at Collectibly, which I did enjoy very much. Now, I’m back to school, currently in my third year in NUS, taking 5 modules this semester with a huge amount readings and assignments. Blah, blah, blah…Yea, you know what it is like being in school. However, every time I went back to school after a 3-month long summer, I always realized that I had changed so much during that short period of time and this summer is not an exception. I become more vocal, more open and especially, I choose to be more receptive to life’s myriad possibilities. I have to admit that after subscribing to Vincent Nguyen’s Self Stairway blog, I have developed a more positive outlook in life and become more confident.

Sometimes, we just need to set aside all our fears and insecurities to embrace what this amazing life has given us. Talk to someone new everyday. Make new friends. Speak your mind. Smile widely whenever you see someone you know. Ask those who used to be your close friends out for lunch or a cup of coffee. Anything. Why? Because I realized how these little actions can do wonders and make my day. For me, it’s a great pleasure to meet up with friends, both old and new, because I know for sure that their stories will never fail to amaze me. Although they are ordinary people, what they say can be just as effective as a speech from any inspirational speaker. And that’s exactly what I need to make me feel energized and happy.

Enough beating around the bush, let’s get to the main story of this blog post right now.

So here I am, rushing from Central Library to Computer Center, hoping that I reach there in time to queue for the Microsoft Surface RT, which is now offered half price in NUS. OK, I know that you probably think what on earth makes me want to spend my hard-earned money on the Surface RT because that tablet sucks. Yet, it’s a totally different topic so do spare me your reactions at the meantime.

I get into the queue, which is surprisingly long, starting all the way from the first floor stair case to the fourth. Realizing how boring it is queuing there, I start a conversation with a guy queuing behind me asking whether I can pay by cash for the tablet or not. And here it goes, our conversation just goes on and on and on. I remembered myself queuing there for approximately 1 hour straight and thanks to that decent chat, time does fly.

After finishing our payments and everything else, we eventually have to part ways. He asks me whether I want to keep in touch and I say “Yes, why not?”. Then, we exchange our numbers and I realize how great I feel after making a new friend. We are not classmates, not staying in the same hall, don’t have any mutual friends and of course, we have nothing in common besides queuing next to each other to buy a tablet. However, if I didn’t start the conversation with him in the first place, I would have no idea that we can get along so well. Sometimes, we just need to open ourselves up, start a conversation naturally and see how it goes. You’ll never know what the future brings if you never take the very first step. Start to embrace the opportunity.

After exchanging our numbers, we messaged each other a few times that day. On the next day, I was quite surprised to receive his text again asking me how my day was. I enjoyed texting him back, sharing things about my life and it was fun reading his replies. After a few text messages, I started to wonder where this text message conversation was going. I know clearly that I’m very bad at maintaining relationships. I wondered whether me being so open would give him “false signals”, which is bad given the fact that I already have a boyfriend. All these thoughts kept revolving around my head and I couldn’t decide whether I should tell him directly that I already have a boyfriend and I hope we are just friends, or I should stop replying him or just give him a one-two word reply to show my lack of enthusiasm and hoping that he knows what I mean. Considering all these options, I decided to text him saying exactly what I feel and make my stand clear from the start. I had no idea how he would react. Would he think I’m weird, or crazy, or stupid? I don’t know. Still, I chose to speak my mind and just be frank and honest to him. At least that’s what a friend should do and be. He is such a nice guy and he deserves my honesty.

Eventually, I got a reply from him for my text message. He thanked me for being honest and making my stand clear right from the start. He didn’t think that I’m weird at all and he also already has a girlfriend. He also hopes that we can become good friends because we had such a decent chat that day. Everything turns out just fine and I felt so happy because I knew that I had done a right thing.

So the key take away is: speak your mind and say what you really want to say. Just be nice, frank and honest and other people appreciate you doing just that. In short, it is the crux of building any relationship, no matter it is friendship, courtship or partnership.

OK, that’s all I have for now. Hope you guys have a great week ahead and don’t forget to open up yourself to other people. They can surely make your day!

With lots of love,

Lynn ❤