Say what you need to say….

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Hi peeps, how are you doing? I’m so so sorry for letting my blog untouched for the last 1 month. Here are some updates about me recently just to set the stage for the story that I’m going to tell you in the next 10 minutes.

I finished my internship at Collectibly, which I did enjoy very much. Now, I’m back to school, currently in my third year in NUS, taking 5 modules this semester with a huge amount readings and assignments. Blah, blah, blah…Yea, you know what it is like being in school. However, every time I went back to school after a 3-month long summer, I always realized that I had changed so much during that short period of time and this summer is not an exception. I become more vocal, more open and especially, I choose to be more receptive to life’s myriad possibilities. I have to admit that after subscribing to Vincent Nguyen’s Self Stairway blog, I have developed a more positive outlook in life and become more confident.

Sometimes, we just need to set aside all our fears and insecurities to embrace what this amazing life has given us. Talk to someone new everyday. Make new friends. Speak your mind. Smile widely whenever you see someone you know. Ask those who used to be your close friends out for lunch or a cup of coffee. Anything. Why? Because I realized how these little actions can do wonders and make my day. For me, it’s a great pleasure to meet up with friends, both old and new, because I know for sure that their stories will never fail to amaze me. Although they are ordinary people, what they say can be just as effective as a speech from any inspirational speaker. And that’s exactly what I need to make me feel energized and happy.

Enough beating around the bush, let’s get to the main story of this blog post right now.

So here I am, rushing from Central Library to Computer Center, hoping that I reach there in time to queue for the Microsoft Surface RT, which is now offered half price in NUS. OK, I know that you probably think what on earth makes me want to spend my hard-earned money on the Surface RT because that tablet sucks. Yet, it’s a totally different topic so do spare me your reactions at the meantime.

I get into the queue, which is surprisingly long, starting all the way from the first floor stair case to the fourth. Realizing how boring it is queuing there, I start a conversation with a guy queuing behind me asking whether I can pay by cash for the tablet or not. And here it goes, our conversation just goes on and on and on. I remembered myself queuing there for approximately 1 hour straight and thanks to that decent chat, time does fly.

After finishing our payments and everything else, we eventually have to part ways. He asks me whether I want to keep in touch and I say “Yes, why not?”. Then, we exchange our numbers and I realize how great I feel after making a new friend. We are not classmates, not staying in the same hall, don’t have any mutual friends and of course, we have nothing in common besides queuing next to each other to buy a tablet. However, if I didn’t start the conversation with him in the first place, I would have no idea that we can get along so well. Sometimes, we just need to open ourselves up, start a conversation naturally and see how it goes. You’ll never know what the future brings if you never take the very first step. Start to embrace the opportunity.

After exchanging our numbers, we messaged each other a few times that day. On the next day, I was quite surprised to receive his text again asking me how my day was. I enjoyed texting him back, sharing things about my life and it was fun reading his replies. After a few text messages, I started to wonder where this text message conversation was going. I know clearly that I’m very bad at maintaining relationships. I wondered whether me being so open would give him “false signals”, which is bad given the fact that I already have a boyfriend. All these thoughts kept revolving around my head and I couldn’t decide whether I should tell him directly that I already have a boyfriend and I hope we are just friends, or I should stop replying him or just give him a one-two word reply to show my lack of enthusiasm and hoping that he knows what I mean. Considering all these options, I decided to text him saying exactly what I feel and make my stand clear from the start. I had no idea how he would react. Would he think I’m weird, or crazy, or stupid? I don’t know. Still, I chose to speak my mind and just be frank and honest to him. At least that’s what a friend should do and be. He is such a nice guy and he deserves my honesty.

Eventually, I got a reply from him for my text message. He thanked me for being honest and making my stand clear right from the start. He didn’t think that I’m weird at all and he also already has a girlfriend. He also hopes that we can become good friends because we had such a decent chat that day. Everything turns out just fine and I felt so happy because I knew that I had done a right thing.

So the key take away is: speak your mind and say what you really want to say. Just be nice, frank and honest and other people appreciate you doing just that. In short, it is the crux of building any relationship, no matter it is friendship, courtship or partnership.

OK, that’s all I have for now. Hope you guys have a great week ahead and don’t forget to open up yourself to other people. They can surely make your day!

With lots of love,

Lynn ❤

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Youth, Success and the Mini Skirt

ImageIn an international conference, there was a successful young lady in her 20s that impressed everyone with her never-ending list of outstanding achievements. She took great pride in her career successes, which never fail to bring her status, wealth, and respects from many others.

“Have you ever gone to a club, wearing a mini-skirt and doing crazy things with your friends in the last 20 years?”, out of a sudden, a professor in the conference asked. 

Surprised and unprepared, the young lady answered: “No, I haven’t. I was too busy with my career to do all of this.”

The professor smiled and spoke gently: “Don’t worry, I’m not going to blame you for that. But you know what, there are certain things that you can only do when you are young. I have been wearing long pants for the last 80 years and there is nothing wrong with that. But think about it, will you still wear a mini-skirt, go to a club and kiss a random guy when you are 80 years old?…

Once youth and beauty leave you, they are gone for eternity. So after this, maybe you will want to spend some time enjoying life and do crazy things when you are still young, won’t you?” 

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6 things that I learnt in my 20

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1) Try not to be a commitment-freak. 
Anybody knows that going to college is something extremely exciting. When you are about to enter university, you are possibly enticed to join a whole bunch of CCAs, Orientation Camps, interest groups, hall activities or something seemingly more prestigious – your school’s student union. However, don’t be a fool and over-commit yourself in too many activities. That is an indirect way to kill yourself as you will surely find yourself limping through the semester.

2)You might be crazily interested in hundreds of things/clubs that your school offers, but always remember to prioritize. 

Consider which one will add more value to your personal development, build up your social network, get you off your chair to exercise or just simply make you enjoy yourself doing it and then commit to it. Never promise to join those activities that you clearly know that you will not be able to (or just don’t want to) invest your precious time in it. There are only 24 hours per day and you are absolutely not superman/woman in its true sense plus the fact that human’s most basic need nowadays is surfing internet (considering facebook/youtube as your best of friends), you would rather spend your time getting enough sleep to sustain your life than participate in your CCAs. Trust me.

3) Opportunities, experiences and knowledge are out there.
Lots of them. Just have faith and keep looking if you haven’t got what you want. As long as you have tried your best, gathered as much help as possible from seniors, friends, teachers, tutors and had patience in your journey of self-development, opportunities will come to you. If you are longing for a good internship for summer and things didn’t happen the way you have expected, keep applying.

4) You will never be able to survive college if your main sources of energy are from instant noodles and Milo. 

I admit that they taste freaking awesome if you eat them once in a while, but instant noodles, while cheap, cannot replace one’s daily diet. If you don’t want to be fainted due to low blood sugar during the day, remember to eat properly. Fast food and late-night suppers are inevitable, but think twice before you decide to go or not. Your health as well as your pocket money will soon approach an alarming state long before you  know it. Be careful also if you spontaneously decide to “purify” yourself by temporarily adopting a vegetarian diet while in school. Without a proper dieting guidelines, you will never be able to cope with school work as well as those CCAs that you have promised to yourself that you will die die commit to them.

5) Although moving in with your gf,bf during college is one’s own choice of lifestyle, I personally think that it is stupid.

Temporarily moving with your boyfriend in is totally fine. But girls, please always have a backup plan. Never give up your independence (in this case is probably your room, your personal computer, your facebook password, your personal ideologies, even your virginity or whatever thing that makes you feel confident of yourself) as you move in with your boyfriend. Things change. People change. Relationships change. Faith and trust in your other half might not be eternal. You guys might agree to go steady, but steady doesn’t mean forever. So do not risk giving in everything belongs to you in a relationship, no matter how much you love the other person.

6) Friends come and go. 

Do not waste your time for those that always look down on you behind your back. That’s where they are meant to be – behind you. It takes time and sleepless nights to figure out who are the friends that you have to get rid of before they drag you to their own abyss.  They make you feel bad about yourself and inject their toxic ideas into your brain with a hope that you will someday fail like them. You will have to struggle and suffer a lot from their meanness before you come to realization. But that’s when you are freed from these people. Knowing when to let go and eliminate a toxic person from your life is an important skill that anyone has to learn in life. However, this doesn’t mean that we should not have faith and trust in those around us, it just means that people are hard to understand and we need to have doubts to simply protect ourselves.   

I SEA YOU!

My childhood dream comes true today. I still remember the excitement I felt when I was about to see it. Just a little more time, a few more steps, I would be able to witness what I have always dreamed of as a child. Yup, if you are curious about what I am rambling about, here is the thing: 
 
Yeah right! S.E.A Aquarium Resort World Sentosa – Also known as the world’s largest aquarium!
 
 
 
 
I guess everything Singapore has is either the best, the largest, the highest because people are super kiasu here haha! (FYI: kiasu means “A fear of losing used to describe a person who is overly competitive; afraid to lose” according to wikidictionary lol 🙂
 
 
I’m still very very excited about it even though I have spent like 5 hours wandering around the aquarium for like 3 full rounds. I have to confess that I am neither a fish-lover nor a water-sports person, but I love watching fish for no sound reason. Documentaries about marine life never fails to amuse me since I was a child. 
 
However, despite the fact that watching fishes move around in a giant fish tank is a huge pleasure for me, I am afraid of touching fishes. I hate the feeling of swimming among the fishes, that’s why I never dare to go diving or trying out any kind of water sports. You may think that this is ridiculous, but people do come up with paradoxical reasons and fears that they simple cannot explain. Putting that aside, I did not have to dive with the fishes today (or simple don’t have enough money and skills to do that haha :D) and I refused to touch any fish at open fish tanks like this one:
 
 
 
And there is a huge Open Ocean Dome that makes me feel like I was entering a magical world that only belongs to my imagination. I spent around 20 minutes just to sit in front of this giant fish tank and silently witness these marine creatures in awe. The beauty was speechless. 
 
Sometimes I wonder whether these awesome fishes ever look down on us – human beings – while we are busy beholding their presence. Instead of the fact that they are putting on a show to entertain us, we might be seen as a bunch of minions to these arrogant creatures. People have to feed these fishes, care for their needs and health to keep them alive in this giant artificial tank so that the aquarium gets its profits. So who is the one that has the bargaining power now, the fishes or the humans? Just my mundane 2 cents of thoughts. 
 
Oh man… I wish I can just pay for the admission to the giant fish tank instead of having to buy the full tickets for the other worthless attractions. Sigh :-<
 
However, chilling in front of this giant fish tank sipping a cup of hot milk tea and leaning against the shoulder of this famous boyfriend is still freaking cool. Yup I will S.E.A you again soon if I need a quick getaway from school works and stresses, provided that I have enough money to pay for this again. Haha :))
 
 
My trip today to SEA Aquarium was a very fulfilling one 🙂 
 
 
(Credit of all these pictures belong to the owners. Exception: the last one is mine haha)

I have graduated…halfway!

I have graduated….halfway!

 
Yes! This is it. The end of my second year in NUS. I have to admit that it is such a great relief getting rid of school works and exams and taking some time-offs for myself. I can spend as much time as I want watching movie, reading books, surfing facebook/ pinterest/ 9gag, painting my nails or lying on my bed doing nothing with cucumber slices all over my face while eating an apple and posing for a photo like this…

without worrying about the fact that there is only 24 hours in one day to complete everything in my to-do-list.  
Yes! I smell FREEDOM. Liberation here I come.
 
BUT. HOLD ON…
2 days after my exams ended, here I am writing a blog just to stave off my boredom – the common withdrawal symptom of all human beings after school ends. There is one burning question that has been constantly bugging me for the whole day: What to do now? So I decided to start a blog. I think I will just keep this blog personal for my own reflection and satisfaction. As you have seen, it’s all about myself, my trivial pursuits, the little things that happened in my (not-so) boring life. Haha. So if you don’t mind hearing me ramble on and on about whatever thing came into my life, welcome to my blog 🙂 
 
Good news of the day: NUS is announced the best performing university in Asia in the 2013 QS World University Rankings by Subject as well as the world’s eighth best university! Communications and New Media Department in NUS (my major lol) ranks 4th in the world! Woot!
 
(I wonder whether these rankings are real. Haha. But I’m still proud of NUS though. NUS is becoming more and more prestigious as well as my degree, I guess. Cheers!)
Find out more here: http://newshub.nus.edu.sg/headlines/1305/qs_08May13.php if you don’t believe it.

One bonus picture for today:

Yay! I have graduated…halfway! Hahaa. This handsome fresh graduate/boyfriend has just signed his first job offer today. All the best for your future my dear. Love you so much ❤

My trivial pursuits before doomsday

Hi peeps. It is such a wonderful feeling to have this frevelent desire again after such a long long time, Suddenly, I feel like I have lots of stuffs to write in my new entry. The anticipation toward the time that I can finally sit down and begin to write is unbeatable. Ideas just keep pilling up in my mind. And this urges me to get this post started asap.

I have been back in my hometown Hanoi for nearly a week now. And this is actually the reason why I have so many things to pour out on my blog now. It is always good to be back home. I am going to enjoy 1 month here for my winter vacation before going back to NUS, my so-called “existing-hell-on-earth”. But I still love NUS anyway. Although it feels suck when I have to mug like crazy for tests and assigments during sem’s time, NUS is indeed beautiful and always like my second home to me. After 1 year struggling with school work, hall-life and health + emotional problems, I started to love the busy and hectic lifestyle which is so common here in NUS. Yet, it is always good to be back at home, where I can truly “rest” without worrying about exams and assignments. Vacation is absolutely awesome. And soon enough, I eventually get to smell the long-lost satisfaction of complete freedom. 

No school work! No assignment! No presentation! No rushing like crazy for deadlines (which really means “dead”-lines)! No long hours mugging in library! Yeeepy!!! ( 1 word only: Divine!)

Nevertheless, after 4 or 5 days of watching some chessy Korean series or facebook-ing and going shopping both online and offline for shoes and winter cloting, I started to feel super duper bored. I suddenly missed those harsh deadlines and exams because at least I have something to keep my restless brain occuppied.

Opportunity came when I least expected it. Although I have been searching for jobs in Hanoi to employ my self during my one month break, they were not successfully made possible for me in the end. I wanted to tutor Humanities for some NUS applicants during my Dec vacation. I also planned to apply for one of the latest established start-up company in the so-called “PR and public image” industry in Hanoi. They might sound interesting, but both were not feasible to be completed in a short period like 1 month IMO. 

I suddenly came across an available position for afamily,vn writer on facebook one day. It was for the Fashion and Beauty column of the online website, and requires language skills (both Eng and VNese) and writing skills for online articles. I think this position perfectly fits my personality. Also, I have always wanted to do something related to the journalism industry. At least I can apply some of the things I learnt in school into reality.Experiencing what is it like to be a journalist in real life is precious for a novel writer like me.
At least I am happy with what I’m doing right now. I sleep for 9 hours everyday, then hang out with friends or look for cool n trendy fashion topics online to write about. Life is great when you actually get to do something you like.

YOLO!

Dooms day, come at me! I’m ready! (If there is something called “a real doomsday” LOL )   

 

   

Hello world!

After a long period of blogging hiatus, now I am moving to WordPress.

My life, similarly to everybody else, is not simple, although I always try to conceptualize it in a much simpler way than people think it is.

My life revolves around Hanoi, Singapore, NUS, Communications and New Media, Central Library, Temasek Hall, Cats, Dancing and many more.

A few words about myself: I’m a second-year student in the National University of Singapore, majoring in Communications and New Media. I have a great passion for both dancing and cats, although they don’t have much in common lol. I joined Chingay and Rag (if you know what it is), and they were indeed great memories. A part of my life belongs to hospitals, both in Vietnam and in Singapore. Every admission to the hospital is traumatizing and no doubt painful. But I know that every discharge from the hospital is a blessing and an achievement.

My growth may not be explicit or even evident to me. But I believe that I will grow stronger (physically and mentally) with every phase.

Stay strong.

I believe that a strong mind can have a powerful effect on one’s body.

I’ll always smile for my family and loved ones.